So.. my house is in a state of health hazard. Its completely trashed. The dishes havent been washed because our drain is clogged and the dishwasher cant be run. The floors are icky. The clothes are piled all over. Wanna know why?? I have been deathly sick. Morning sickness and very stressful trip home have made me really sick. Not eating, cant eat, etc... So.. because I am out of commission, the house looks like it should be condemned. Wait... arent I married?? Oh yes. There is another fully capable adult here to clean, since its mostly his crap. I slept the entire 4th weekend when I wasnt puking. I am at my wits end. Who the hell does my husband think he is?? Just because he works outside of the house means he can trash it and leave it for me? Apparently, he did tell me housework was my "job". He forgets that I have to chase a toddler regardless of feeling like crap and clean the house fo him to come home and take off his uniform in the middle of the floor and plop on the computer!! UGHHHH *cries* 

I know how you feel...it took 5yr to get my hubby to start helping out more. I just refused to get up on the weekend and make him do everything so he can understand what my week is like while he is at work. Now we do things as a team and it works out soo much better! You should really go to the Tyson marriage retreat! It will really help!!!!!! 

We went to a marriage retreat in May. His company hosted one. Thats where I met Bianca!! =D Everytime I wake up and the house is in terrible dissaray, and I didnt do it, or I tried to clean but got nowhere because he came behind and messed it up again, makes me resent him a little. Im to the point where I might call a meeting with his Chaplain. He is getting rediculous and I am really sick still. =( 

I've been in pain the last 6 almost 7 months with my carpal tunnel in both hands. I would clean if I actually could hold onto something. But my hubby doesn't "understand" (his words). So my house is pretty bad also. It gets to the point I have to yell to get something done. It's even gotten to the point that I told him that if this is the way it's going to be I want a divorce. My poor carpet hasn't been vacuumed in about 2 weeks. I'm just now to the point where I sit here all day and just keep my mouth shut. Hopefully in 2 weeks after my surgery on my right hand I can do some good ole cleaning! LOL. 

I am so with you. I have been on and off bed rest since we found out I was pregnant. My last OB appt. they basically said I can't do anything. No laundry, no vacumming, nothing. And he was there! Today we had my cardiology appt, and he said the same thing. Yet I come home, the sink is full, the dishwasher is full, the laundry room is covered with clothes that need washed, the floor is covered in dog hair, the groceriers I bought yesterday are still in bags (except the cold)...and yet he calls and asks me to drive around today to find a rug for the guest room (his brother is coming to stay with us). All I can do is try not to kill him. I don't believe that men actually think. Mine waits for me to tell him step by step what needs done. If I don't, then he assumes it's all good. I'm more along the lines of "if it looks messy, it is, and clean it". He just doesn't think that way. Yet he can fix things in his unit, increase productivity, run 3 different missions, and do it all without anyone asking. Yet he can't put dirty clothes in the washing machine. 

Yeah. The drain is still clogged because he keeps forgetting to call maintenance. And I refuse to do it, since I am the one who does it all the time!! And he is hoping for a promotion at work. HA! He wont be getting one here at home anytime soon... Maybe the next time he wants to cozy up, he will remember how lame he is at housework and go wash a fork! 

lol 

i would do no sex no nothing until u start helping me out around here 

I am so glad to know I am not the only one with a husband that is a slob and doesn't seem to see a mess!!!! I'm beginning to think mine is blind after all these years!!!!!! LOL I have given up on him ever "getting" it. I know men are different that women, but hello....... Clean up and help out, its not brain surgery! 

Holy peas, are you me? We've been going through this for months. We had some houseguests make themselves at home and trash the place and I got pregnant not long after and just haven't been able to keep up with my migraines and the housework so we heed and hawed about it since we heard about the stimulus checks and we've hired a cleaning service to come in and help us. They came by about 15 minutes ago looked around and said they'd need to come back in the morning because it would take all day. They said they can help me organize at least some and that will be SUCH big help. I'm really crossing my fingers. Somehow I missed out on my maternal side's Organizing gene. I was really embarrassed to tell my mom what we were doing but even she thought it was a great idea. ROFL I read that wrong (I'm always reading something wrong!) I read, "Maybe the next time he wants to cozy up he'll sit on a fork!" 

if anybody needs any help i can help clean... i just need a ride over there and i can help you cla and just hang out. :] 

you're hired Bianca LOL.But I could so go just for the company right about now.Being stuck in the house all the time is starting to bug me. I think I might have to get cabin fever and fix the "issues" lol I kid!..... I think. 

haha! lol, i would love to hang out... i have some pretty lonely days :[ just sitting here staring at the screen of HU pressing refresh over and over waiting to see if anyone says anything new =D lol. jk, but i will come over and scrub toilets and everything :] while talking :] 

you're preggers I couldn't make you clean! 

lol.. but i love cleaning... especially dishes... and bathrooms... lol. the smell of supplies isnt so bad either... as long as it isnt STRONG. lol. but just let me know if you want to hang out sometime and ill let you know. today i am going to do a couple things in cove and tomorrow morning i have a wic appointment. but for the rest of the week after that im good :] 

thursday is my preop apt at 1 in temple and i wont know what time my surgery firday is till thrusday ... 

It took me 7 years too get my hubby to help and all 3 times being prego he never helped me doing nothing in fact we yelled at eachother my whole pregnancy men are especailly like that when ur pregnant i have no idea why but as soon as u pop the kid out there right there at your becan call so weird. All i can say is bite your toung and it will get better. 

Bianca, you have something wrong with you. lol. I HATE cleaning, and yet its all I do. I am with Aleese on this one, I def didnt inherit the housekeeping gene. I feel like I have to work extra hard to keep up and I am so sick and tired right now, Im just wiped! 

lol i hate cleaning too. im kinda lucky my hubby actually cleans when hes home and around. might b because im the messy one in the family LOL 

I hated cleaning when I was preggo it was horrible and my hubby is a complete wreck too...I love cleaning though now! If you need help let me know :) 

I was mean and Ill admit it. I have three kids under the age of three (my oldest is 2 1/2) I dont have a ton of time because we are doing a lot of classes. we started going to counseling to work on our marraige a little and he told the counseler that he "promised he would keep the kitchen clean every night" That was great with me. One last room I had to do. So the first two days went by great. The kitchen was close to perfect before he went to bed etc... Then all the sudden he quit doing it. So I left it the first day. the next day it still wasnt done and I cant have my house that way so I picked it up etc... Talked to him about it when he got home. Yes hunny i promise Ill do it... etc.. So things still didnt get done. For the fourth we had a bunch of his friends over for a BBQ. I srubbed everything spotless. Of course the kitchen got dirty in the mist of it all. One of his friends came by Sunday to hang out with him. I refused to clean up one thing. Hes liek hunny the kids are drivign me nuts can you come get them... I didnt move... He came in and made a huge deal in front of his friend about how I needed to help him. So I stated very loudly where is my help when I needed it? Then I grabbed the keys and left. I took myself out to dinner and to a movie and enjoyed a little time to myself. I got back and went straight up to my room. He put the kids to bed and left to go to the barracks for a while. I locked the doors and went to bed. he came home and tried gettign in and the doors were locked. he called and I just didnt answer. He went back to the barracks and slept there. The net day I unlocked the door and didnt say a single word when he got home. His friend came back with him and they both cleaned the house till it sparkled....lol. It was mean but I dont care. since then the kitchen has been spotless every night before he goes to bed and I get a little help.