So, last night the hubbs and I tore into each other. He's angry that I don't ask him politely to do his chores. He's 29 years old. I shouldn't have to ASK him to do sh*t! He was like, "Instead of barking at me to clean the kitchen, why can't you say, "Can you please clean the kitchen?" This is something we've fought about ooover and ooover. My answer? You're a big boy. This is your house. I shouldn't have to ask you! If you see the dishes need done, and I haven't done them... do them!!!! I shouldn't have to ask!! Nobody ASKS me to do the vacuuming, the sweeping, the mopping, bathroom cleaning, laundry, bathing the animals, cleaning the outside. I JUST DO IT BECAUSE IT NEEDS TO BE DONE! ................why is this such a hard concept for a nearly 30-year-old man to grasp?! especially when his mom is like "yeah that's crazy, because when he was at home he had his chores to do and nobody had to tell him twice." Maybe I need to start instituting a punishment scale like parents do, yeah?! Take away the cell phone, the computer, etc if your chores aren't done! aaaaagh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh and ps, usually i'm "barking" at him to do the dishes because he was so absorbed in his damn computer that he didn't HEAR me say it relatively politely the first 15 times. *&^&^$%$^#!!!! 

Yup I do the same dang thing with mine. 

I totally hear where you're coming from - sometimes my husband is the same way! we just got into this morning about something similar but it had more to do with childcare. I have given up though - I dont even ask him for household help anymore - I do it all. One day Im just gunna not do any of it so he can realize how much he relies on me and how much he NEEDS to appreciate me. I'm sorry you're having these issues. If I weren't in the same situation I could possibly give more advice but I'm in the same boat 

Im pretty sure all husbands are like that lol. Mine is the same way i gave up asking him to do chores a long time ago lol. But when he needs my help i wont help him till he helps me sometimes it works or u keep all the inside chores up and when he wants something u can say well u didnt help me out and then he might think about it next time. Hope this helps. 

I quit doing everything that would affect him. Wouldnt do his laundry nothing. He got the hint fast. 

Yeah, David did the same thing he would't do a thing and so I laid into him about it and it was I work all day, and at the time I worked to and I just looked at him like really really, your going to say that. So I stopped cleaning his stuff and I didn't make dinner or lunch for him and I came home the next day laundry was done dishes done, place was clean and dinner was made and he aplogized. I about cried! 

one day i had asked my hubby to clean the bathroom and he said ok but never did it. so i let it go for 2 weeks and after that two weeks he looked at me and said "are you ever gonna clean the bathroom?" lol i told him no bc he said he would do it and i was proving my point. he then goes to "clean it with just the scrubers and no cleaners! so i still had to go do it 

youre lucky carissa. my hubbs is so bull-headed he'd never apologize. i stopped doing his laundry 2 years ago. but that's the only thing he'll do. he'd take a shower in a moldy bathtub and wouldn't care. never cleans a thing. jackassery! sheer jackassery!! 

jackassery! sheer jackassery!! lol I ♥ it 

Sorry yall got into a fight...=( We have an agreement that he works and I stay at home so that is what I do keep the house clean, take care of the kids, and stay on top of the laundry. He takes care of the trash and the lawn. BUT if he makes a mess he cleans up his own mess. If he throws his clothes on the floor or makes a snack..whatever he does he cleans up. Dinner time I get the kids bathed and ready for bed and he cleans the kitchen. Then we have our time to relax with each other. We figured out that finding was to compromise made thing much happier for the both of us. Good luck! 

oh and ps, usually i'm "barking" at him to do the dishes because he was so absorbed in his damn computer that he didn't HEAR me say it relatively politely the first 15 times. Ha ha, maybe you should find a way to get his attention....then say do the dishes and you will see more...lol You would be suprised on how fast the dishes will be not only done but put up! ;) 

I am lucky at least that day cause lol i left out it went back to the same old same old of coare it was gettin closer to deployment so I didnt care! 

After almost 23 years of marriage I still haven't figured out how to get him to help or to clean up after himself. I swear he is the biggest slob on the planet!!!! Ugh!!! Good luck and just remember, It won't get better! That way you won't be disappointed! :) 

OK man here and a husband...I do most of the cleaning in my house and wife and I never ask each other to clean things. When it needs done we do it. It is about being a grown man. If your husbands will not do the stuff that needs done, cut him off in the bedroom and tell him hey cant be romantic in a dirty house...lol 

I do most of the cleaning in my house Will you marry me!!! LOL 

right!!!! marry me too! i only come with one kid and a labrador!! 

Lol my hubs cleans to... 

Lol this thread was cute... Sorry mama, I may not have any good advice for u... from the moment I got married we agreed everything in our marriage was 50/50, and I made sure I enforced that! Lol Hubby helps with everything, if he starts slacking all I gota do is say a few words and he's back on track. I've always worked, and been in school... right now I'm taking off to stay with the baby but that doesn't mean I would expect any less from him... unfortunately this is one of those things that if u didn't get him used to it from the beginnign u might have a hell of a hard time changing him now.... Umm all I can think of is maybe sitting down and dividing the workload and coming up with a game plan so he knows what's expected from him... good luck!