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Theresa --- 6 years ago -

So I live next door to someone who is cheating on her husband who is deployed, and I am tired of her drama she brings to the neighborhood. I know her hubbys info and recently found her email address through another neighbor. I have so much dirt on this woman and want so advice on weather or not you would email him or just leave it alone!!! Im not about wrecking a happy home but come on its not happy home at all. 

FreeLittleFootFanClub (Mod) --- 6 years ago -

Wait till he gets home. Not exactly what he needs to be thinking about. But if crap is happening call the MPs or housing. 

Theresa --- 6 years ago -

They have come out already she has pregnant dughter who she and her other daughters have teamed up on and beat up cps sid their is nothing they can do. She is moving out in june with her BF and taking everything with her. The husband comes back in September and will not know she moved out. By then they will hit their ten year anniversary and that is what she wants so she can take half of everything from him! I understand I dont want to be responsible for him hurting himself but is it ok to let her get away with so much? 

FreeLittleFootFanClub (Mod) --- 6 years ago -

Talk to his command or rear- d. 

Theresa --- 6 years ago -

How do I do that? I dont know the first thing about going about that. Hes a good man defending our lives and I hate for this to happen to him. 

Megz (Mod) --- 6 years ago -

If you have an AKO acct and his email you should be able to look up what his unit is and from there call fort hood information and find out the number to rear d. Call them and find out where they are located and ask to speak to the commander. 

Ktown Raised --- 6 years ago -

In all honesty, I would stay out of that lady's business even though she has brought the drama to the neighborhood. She has not brought inside your house so I would leave it alone, Karma will be rolling up anytime soon on her behind. I do not like the fact there are people who do this kind of garbage especially to a soldier. One of my husband's soldier's wife cheated on him, she is pregnant and she thinks the baby is not his. She got her butt chewed up and spit out by the 1st SGT. It effected this man at work and all that mess. I cannot face her like I did before hand because she disrespected not only herself but her husband and I have no sympathy for her, him yes because he did nothing wrong, however I know I am not the one to judge people because that is not my duty. Now if I knew of a neighbor which I have in the past cheating on their husband, I would not even go tell it on the mountain. I have a friend who did that and I was young, told her husband because he suspected it...well lets say I lost them as a friend back then both of them, we talk now because that was 20 plus years ago. He was hurt because she cheated, she was hurt because I was her friend even though I talked to both her and her hubby at that time. Everyone about want to kick my butt for going back to her hubby on it even though he asked me if she was cheating because she had went to the hospital for an STD which he found about. I could have lied and said I did not know. This kind of mess happens all the time. If you decide to go to his unit about this that is on you however you better hope this lady is not coocoo for coco puffs and decides to take revenge down the road. I stay out of folks business like that after my first hand experience. 

MommyPancakeNut --- 6 years ago -

I agree with staying out of it. It will only bring more drama and directly to you. Of course the husband deserves to know but it is not your responsibility if you are not his friend. Ignore her. 

Ich bin Batman --- 6 years ago -

I say stay out of it too. To include what was already said here, you have no idea what the husband really does know and he may not appreciate it either. It really could just cause more trouble than what you thought it was to begin with. To each their own, just be happy it isn't yours. 

Ich bin Batman --- 6 years ago -

By the way, being married 10 years doesn't give her all those rights by default. If he played his cards right in court (didn't just bow down and agree to it all) she would have to prove in court why she deserves it all. 

Ktown Raised --- 6 years ago -

I say stay out of it too. To include what was already said here, you have no idea what the husband really does know and he may not appreciate it either. It really could just cause more trouble than what you thought it was to begin with. To each their own, just be happy it isn't yours.

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SheShe --- 6 years ago -

Unfortunetly, situations like this happen more than we know! There are always 2 sides to every story! What goes around, comes around and she will get hers eventually. Drama is everywhere! Unless she is causing problems for you or your family, then I would stay out of it! 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

id have to agree and stay out of it too. for all you know maybe their into that stuff and you cant sit there and judge. maybe shes wrong for her plans but then again it may be good for the husband bc he doesnt deserve anything like that.

like ktown ive been down that road and it aint pretty at all. 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

i can understand your concerns but alot of people take it upon themselves to "STOP WORLD CHEATING" and it sucks to be cheated on especially when its a soldier...but in a perfect world we wouldnt have to worry about it and this is far from a perfect world. its a new day and age and some people get stupider everyday and we all just gotta sit back and take care of ours and not worry about everyone elses. venting to someone (IMO) about it is ok but taking action about it really isnt your responsibility and should be dealt with within that family. 

someonesangel --- 6 years ago -

Tough situation; All I can think about is that it would suck if the soldier came home having no clue about his wife, and finding out that lots of people knew, but no one told him. I don't know if I would tell him or not, but it would definetly suck if he had no idea how big of a scum ball his wife was. 

*Jamie* --- 6 years ago -

That is a tough situation. It would depend how close I was to the couple and it doesn't sound like you are very close to them. If you are compelled to say something do it anonymously. 

Loving.army.life --- 6 years ago -

Either wait until the guy gets home or take it to his chain of command that way when he is told a chaplain can be with him. Do not take it upon yourself to tell him. It sucks being out here as it is. A soldier with a loaded firearm who gets an email that his spouse is cheating is not a good combination for the soldeir or those around him, just keep in mind if you do decide to tell him what the repercussions could be. 

the1 --- 6 years ago -

i would stay out of it cuz 1 u dont knw what he is doin over there. they may hav come to an agreement of an open marriage for her to b so confident to let neighbors knw with all the drama cuz really he gonna find out with all that goin on. just a thought 

Theresa --- 6 years ago -

Well I want to say thank you for all your comments. I have decided to stay out of it cause I dont want to be responsible for his doing something wrong to himself. However I hope that I can live with myself knowing the things she has done and him not having a clue. Word just came from his daughter that she just gave up his baby for adoption cause the new bf wants nothing to do with the baby. I now know why soldiers do like giving their spouses power of attorney. I can only hope the daughter is lying about this situation!!! 

MrsCarissa --- 6 years ago -

I dont think that the power of attorney can decide on signing over rights to a child. 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

However I hope that I can live with myself knowing the things she has done and him not having a clue.


theres nothing you should have to do bc its not your situation...when he does return and all hell breaks loose offer your help and advice but there no need to intervene and possibly cause more issues. 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

I dont think that the power of attorney can decide on signing over rights to a child.


i have to say i think that she cant do that....hes in iraq...so it seems kinda like the whole divorce thing and being overseas...something like that they need signatures but i could be wrong...im not sure on any of that...just thinking ethically. 

Megz (Mod) --- 6 years ago -

Word just came from his daughter that she just gave up his baby for adoption cause the new bf wants nothing to do with the baby

if this is true then the daughter needs to go to his chain of command and get them involved. Im pretty sure she cant do it legally but that doesnt mean she isnt trying to illegally adopt that child out. 

someonesangel --- 6 years ago -

wow.. am i the only one for telling him? I'd be ashamed that I'd would sit by and let it happen; if i was deployed, i would want to know that my husband was cheating on me! if i came back and found out that everyone knew about it AND NO ONE TOLD ME..!! instead, he could be sending his paycheck back to this women so before he gets back, she will probably drain and TAKE ALL HIS MONEY SINCE SHE HAS POA! we all have different opinions, but i am trying to look at it from the point "would i want to know.." 

Loving.army.life --- 6 years ago -

I am looking at it from the point of being a deployed soldier. I am deployed and I have seen what happens first hand when a soldier finds out about a cheating spouse. It's not pretty. If she insists on saying something go to his chain of command, they can help him. Sending an email or taking it upon herself is asking for alot of problems.

Sometimes a soldiers mental well being is a little more important than money. 

Megz (Mod) --- 6 years ago -

Im with loving army life. the COC is the best way to go about it. especially since if she is trying to put their child up for adoption THEY can get CPS involved and have the soldier sent home to deal with all of this. 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

if i was deployed, i would want to know that my husband was cheating on me! if i came back and found out that everyone knew about it AND NO ONE TOLD ME


but in all honesty would you believe it from a complete stranger that you might have never met in your life or just think its some bullsh*t drama? nobody really knows the circumstances between the soldier and his wife. maybe their already considering a divorce but cant until hes home...maybe he has his money being placed in an account she cant access...maybe they have agreed on what happens while hes gone. yea it sucks that this is happening but honestly how much of this does the OP really know whats the truth (not saying shes lying just a point of view) and not some bullsh*t rumor...she did say that this girl is bringing lots of drama to the neighborhood right? maybe this is just some more drama that someone felt needed to be added. nobody can stop someone from cheating no matter what you do...only the cheater can take it upon themselves to stop it. to each their own. it isnt your neighbors responsibility that you dont know to make sure your spouse is staying in check! 

Theresa --- 6 years ago -

This is the OP and this is what Ive seen, the hubby was home for r and r last week and I thought he ws finally home as her daughter had gotten caught shoplifting and I was hoping he would set her straight. Reason I know is because as much as I hate to admit it but my daughter ws caught with her that day. I did however punish my daughter for her actions and took care of my problems with the issue. I not trying to seek revenge so please dont think that. Anyhow I noticed the hubby leaving with buddy with some army bag and realized he was home on r and r. Upon him leaving she hugged him sid I love you and see you soon. I thought it was sweep as I m missing my deployed hubby. Anyhow not a minute after he turned the corner the bf shows up and she didnt hide anything hugged and kissed him in front of everyone, I simply was discusted that I turned away. I left it at that. The other day I had a day off and went shopping for things to clean my house and when I returned home I was unable to park in my drive because mps were blocking me out. I argued with them to move so I can get into my drive which I was told I had to wait so I parked two houses down. Dont know what that was about. The daughter comes to my house telling me of everything the mom has done, still I keep quiet I am not about having a soldier hurt himself. I returned from work again and the daughter said the mom put baby up for adoption. I see the baby all the time up until yesterday. I stay out of it havent done anything about it, I just wanted to know if I sty quiet or tell the change of command what I heard this womn is going to be doing. All bit of info I have either seen or been told by one of the daughters. Please dont judge me as a horrible person cause Im not. 

Redneck Martha Stewart --- 6 years ago -

Please dont judge me as a horrible person cause Im not

im not judging you at all which im sure nobody else is...i think the point some are trying to get across is the fact that what you see with your eyes might be different then whats really going on. looks can be and will be decieving. my personal opinion is to stay out of it bc i know NOTHING of whats going on rather then what i see. of course if you think there is abuse or neglect in the home then by all means call who you have too, but as far as adults...their adults for a reason..not an innocent kid. there could be a million things going on and unless its affecting you personally id stay out of it and let it be dealt with between that family...its NOT your fault or responsibility if she leaves him...if thats the case then he dont need her. maybe her daughter is one of those children that over exaggerates small situations and this is her way of getting attention...not saying shes wrong but you dont know that for sure...just bc you havent seen the baby doesnt mean its gone. the adoption process is a LONG one. it just doesnt happen within a day. all i was doing...along with everyone else is what we would do if we were in that situation. 

Loving.army.life --- 6 years ago -

I am not judging you but I agree with the other girls, you don't know whats going on in that family and sending emails is not the answer. If you are that concerned, get on AKO find out what unit he is with and go talk to rear D.

That is the #1 cause of problems out here, freaking emails and Facebook. 

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